Sorry, not sorry.

If the day ends in “y” then it’s a day where you can expect to hear about someone issuing a public apology in the press or on social media about something they said that generated some form of backlash. I don’t know about you, but I find myself cringing more at the retraction and apology than I do what was initially said. I think what makes it even worse is when someone who is supposed to be known for being intelligent, well-spoken, and by far more logical than the rest of us commoners says something so unbelievably ignorant and/or tone deaf that you wonder why it is you’re struggling in your day to day life while that idiot is probably getting ridiculous amounts of money and air-time to spout off such nonsense.

In my opinion, this either displays a horrible lack of self-control or a horrible lack of fortitude. Why and how have we gotten into the practice of saying things that we really don’t mean, that just don’t come out right? At what point did we lose that filter where we swirled things around in our head before we opened our mouths? Also, when did we get to the point where we back down from everything we say? What happened to our convictions? What happened to “that’s my story and I’m stickin’ to it”?

In my view, I think this sets a horrible example for our children, for ourselves even, because we still are subject to influence no matter how old we are. The message it sends is that you can say whatever you want and then dial it back, AFTER the damage has been done. It says that taking a moment to deliberate on what you say and how you deliver the message is for suckers. It says that genuine apologies mean nothing. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that you should keep quiet at all times unless you have nothing but the nicest things to day. What I’m saying is that there IS a way to get your message across in a manner where you don’t have to worry about doing damage control later. You want people to be able to trust what you say, that you will stand behind it.

Basically, you need to say what you mean and mean what you say.